Lets get things straight.
If vaccines actually worked why would someone feel threatened by someone else who is un-vaccinated?
1. Most of us agree that vaccines worked.
2. The vaccines we use now are different. They use cheaper solvents, commonly peanut oil.Yes, many have metals, formaldihyde, amtibiotics and other things parents go to great lengths to avoid. They also contain foods that kids are commonly allergic to like soy, egg, yeast, gelatin... (http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/pubs/pinkbook/downloads/appendices/B/excipient-table-2.pdf)
3. 1 in 13 children now have allergies. (www.foodallergy.org/facts-and-stats) Vaccines cause food allergies. (https://sites.google.com/site/vaccineinducedfoodallergy/) Scientists literally create animals with allergies by repeated exposure to an allergen paired with a virus.
4. Vaccines kill children every year and have other serious side effects. (http://www.nvic.org/NVIC-Vaccine-News/May-2011/In-Memoriam--Infant-Deaths---Vaccination.aspx, http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2014/01/07/infant-hepatitis-b-vaccine.aspx, http://thepeopleschemist.com/reasons-dont-vaccinate-children-vaccine-supporters-shouldnt-give/...)
5. Vaccines cause you to be more likely to contract whatever you are being vacinated against. (http://www.nvic.org/NVIC-Vaccine-News/May-2011/In-Memoriam--Infant-Deaths---Vaccination.aspx)
6. "Neuroscientists have found that even a brief episode of immune system activation within days of birth can cause persistent changes in sleep patterns concurrent with increases in epilepsy-like brain activity -- a combination of symptoms common in autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and other developmental conditions." https://www.nature.com/articles/npp2017243
7. "Findings suggest that U.S. male neonates vaccinated with hep B vaccine had a 3 fold greater risk of ASD; risk was greatest for non-white boys." ASD= Autism Spectrum Disorder
http://www.annalsofepidemiology.org/article/S1047-2797(09)00207-5/abstract?rss=yes
Thursday, January 29, 2015
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Our Free Country
Christians are forced to pay for elective abortions under Obamacare - where is religous freedom?
Navy Seals can no longer wear Don't Tread On Me patches - where is freedom of speech, or pride?
Teachers are held more accountable than their students. Teachers cant give zeros, parents can sue administrators for embarrassing their kid, and teachers must use an "approved" curriculum that doesn't allow them to use their strengths. Where is the freedom for students to fail or succeed?
Public schools have become a place parents can put kids to get them out of their hair. The feds have realized this and use it to their advantage. They teach kids tolerance and that they don't need real understanding but only to memorize enough to pass a test. They learn that they have no rights, that it is normal to always be under a surveillance camera, to expect to be censored, and fed food that is harmful to their bodies.
I had never heard of the saying "learning for the sake of learning" until my third year of college, why is this concept not taught from the beginning? Why do we treat learning like something we have to force the kids to do?
Degrees from state colleges have lost almost all their value and you don't even need a degree in education to teach at a public school, simply a certificate.
www.americanthinker.com/2013/11/pretty_good_at_killing_things.html
Navy Seals can no longer wear Don't Tread On Me patches - where is freedom of speech, or pride?
Teachers are held more accountable than their students. Teachers cant give zeros, parents can sue administrators for embarrassing their kid, and teachers must use an "approved" curriculum that doesn't allow them to use their strengths. Where is the freedom for students to fail or succeed?
Public schools have become a place parents can put kids to get them out of their hair. The feds have realized this and use it to their advantage. They teach kids tolerance and that they don't need real understanding but only to memorize enough to pass a test. They learn that they have no rights, that it is normal to always be under a surveillance camera, to expect to be censored, and fed food that is harmful to their bodies.
I had never heard of the saying "learning for the sake of learning" until my third year of college, why is this concept not taught from the beginning? Why do we treat learning like something we have to force the kids to do?
Degrees from state colleges have lost almost all their value and you don't even need a degree in education to teach at a public school, simply a certificate.
www.americanthinker.com/2013/11/pretty_good_at_killing_things.html
What kind of man do I want my son to be?
I want him to put things away: the dishes in the dishwasher, his toys in their box..
I want him to be honest, have a sense of humor, love reading and being in nature.
I want him to love learning and think of criticism as a way to improve.
I want him to enjoy using his body and taking on new physical challenges.
I want him to be a man of honor, one that knows the value of doing the right thing even though it may not be in his favor.
I want him to be able to see past a person's flaws into who they really are.
I want him to know that love is more than a feeling.
I want him to know and love God. Not in a religious way but in a way where you can look at him and know that his heart is in tune with something bigger, greater and beyond our comprehension.
I see that he is already big for his size. He likes to observe and then sneak into the play. He likes to laugh and make others laugh. He likes to be useful, toys aren't half as interesting as everyday objects that hold a purpose in the household. He likes to run, climb, hit, throw, spin in circles. He likes to practice his words. He likes to include everyone and share hugs and kisses. He loves to cuddle. He plays shy with strangers which if given a minute he will turn into a game of peekaboo. He likes doing things the same way everytime, for example if he opens a door he likes to close it as well.
He is his own man in the making. I hope to offer him the help to be able to fully realize the goodness inside of him, the strength God gave him and the spirit that lives inside of him.
I want him to be honest, have a sense of humor, love reading and being in nature.
I want him to love learning and think of criticism as a way to improve.
I want him to enjoy using his body and taking on new physical challenges.
I want him to be a man of honor, one that knows the value of doing the right thing even though it may not be in his favor.
I want him to be able to see past a person's flaws into who they really are.
I want him to know that love is more than a feeling.
I want him to know and love God. Not in a religious way but in a way where you can look at him and know that his heart is in tune with something bigger, greater and beyond our comprehension.
I see that he is already big for his size. He likes to observe and then sneak into the play. He likes to laugh and make others laugh. He likes to be useful, toys aren't half as interesting as everyday objects that hold a purpose in the household. He likes to run, climb, hit, throw, spin in circles. He likes to practice his words. He likes to include everyone and share hugs and kisses. He loves to cuddle. He plays shy with strangers which if given a minute he will turn into a game of peekaboo. He likes doing things the same way everytime, for example if he opens a door he likes to close it as well.
He is his own man in the making. I hope to offer him the help to be able to fully realize the goodness inside of him, the strength God gave him and the spirit that lives inside of him.
Monday, December 2, 2013
After crying it out
When your husband is on the verge of tears you know something is wrong...
We have now made a pact that if Andy's cries are escalating after a couple minutes we will do all we can to help him.
Since Andy hasn't been sleeping through his sleep cycles I thought I would try holding him and not allowing him to nurse until 1:30AM. The first time he cried but I held him and it wasn't too bad. I had just talked with friends that let their kids 'cry it out' alone in their cribs and Andy cried for about 13 minutes and did a little bit of screaming.
The next time we let him cry it out I asked my husband to hold him since he didn't have boobs and I thought it would be easier for our son that way. Well, a half hour later they came back exhausted and my husband was mad at me too.
That was when our son was around 9 months old. He is now 17 months old and recovering from Croup and sleeping 10 hours straight and then usually after nursing he will go back to sleep for another hour or two. He had fases where he wouldn't make it past 1:30, then he would make it to 3, then he'd get sick or a new tooth coming and revert back to waking up early. Most of the time I would get him and nurse him in bed where he would stay until I got up. I would take him to the bathroom around 4 or 5.
We tried to let him cry it out again. The results:
1. our son exhibited more fear related behavior in assosiation with the environment (his pack 'n play)
2. quicker escalation of cries
3. more reserved when he woke up
4. guilty feelings becuase I believe that there has to be a better way
If solitary confinement is literally one of the worst forms punishments we use in society today then why would I want my innocent baby to experience it? Babies have a very skewed since of time where a minute is an eternity. There is a reason it is so hard for us parents to hear our babies cry.
Our solution? We are working on it...
As we work on it our son also grows, learns and is better able to understand what is going on around him. When we go to bed he knows that we will brush our teeth and then we nurse. Sometimes we will read a book if he is still bouncing off the walls. About half of the time he still falls asleep nursing as a 17 month old. The other half of the time he comes off and simply lays down. And flops, tosses and turns, moves the pillow and babbles. I recite a verse and sing a song. Sometimes he takes 15 minutes to go to sleep. Sometimes I get his dad to lay with him who will hold him if he is still in his flop mode. This will cause him to fuss, but it's not the gut wrenching cry. But I think about how he is growing so quickly, how beautiful he is, or I'll plan out what I want to do the rest of the night. I used to worry that he would only go to sleep if he was cuddling like it was a bad thing but honestly now that I know he will go go sleep on his own, I find myself snuggling up closer to him or resting my hand on his back just to enjoy myself.
We have now made a pact that if Andy's cries are escalating after a couple minutes we will do all we can to help him.
Since Andy hasn't been sleeping through his sleep cycles I thought I would try holding him and not allowing him to nurse until 1:30AM. The first time he cried but I held him and it wasn't too bad. I had just talked with friends that let their kids 'cry it out' alone in their cribs and Andy cried for about 13 minutes and did a little bit of screaming.
The next time we let him cry it out I asked my husband to hold him since he didn't have boobs and I thought it would be easier for our son that way. Well, a half hour later they came back exhausted and my husband was mad at me too.
That was when our son was around 9 months old. He is now 17 months old and recovering from Croup and sleeping 10 hours straight and then usually after nursing he will go back to sleep for another hour or two. He had fases where he wouldn't make it past 1:30, then he would make it to 3, then he'd get sick or a new tooth coming and revert back to waking up early. Most of the time I would get him and nurse him in bed where he would stay until I got up. I would take him to the bathroom around 4 or 5.
We tried to let him cry it out again. The results:
1. our son exhibited more fear related behavior in assosiation with the environment (his pack 'n play)
2. quicker escalation of cries
3. more reserved when he woke up
4. guilty feelings becuase I believe that there has to be a better way
If solitary confinement is literally one of the worst forms punishments we use in society today then why would I want my innocent baby to experience it? Babies have a very skewed since of time where a minute is an eternity. There is a reason it is so hard for us parents to hear our babies cry.
Our solution? We are working on it...
As we work on it our son also grows, learns and is better able to understand what is going on around him. When we go to bed he knows that we will brush our teeth and then we nurse. Sometimes we will read a book if he is still bouncing off the walls. About half of the time he still falls asleep nursing as a 17 month old. The other half of the time he comes off and simply lays down. And flops, tosses and turns, moves the pillow and babbles. I recite a verse and sing a song. Sometimes he takes 15 minutes to go to sleep. Sometimes I get his dad to lay with him who will hold him if he is still in his flop mode. This will cause him to fuss, but it's not the gut wrenching cry. But I think about how he is growing so quickly, how beautiful he is, or I'll plan out what I want to do the rest of the night. I used to worry that he would only go to sleep if he was cuddling like it was a bad thing but honestly now that I know he will go go sleep on his own, I find myself snuggling up closer to him or resting my hand on his back just to enjoy myself.
Monday, April 8, 2013
Counting to five at 9 months... I'm a little impressed
So while on vacation our good friend was tapping with Andy, our 9 month old. He would tap a few times and the Andy would tap. After watching them I realized something; Andy was copying him. He would tap 5 times with his hand, Andy would tap 5 times with his hand. Then another time Andy copied him using both hands one at a time!
Has anyone else seen this with their babies? I'm a first time mom so I don't know how normal this is, but like I said, I'm pretty darn proud of my little fella!
Has anyone else seen this with their babies? I'm a first time mom so I don't know how normal this is, but like I said, I'm pretty darn proud of my little fella!
Sunday, March 17, 2013
Our EC Timeline
So I have a wonderful baby boy and I know boys are different from girls but I thought I would just show you how things progressed with us.
0-3 Months: We started on his second day and caught his first pee on that day. We used a combo of disposable diapers and cloth diapers and ended up just using cloth after a couple weeks. We would take him around 15 times a day and as to be expected mostly missed everything but it was fun to try and guess and get one pee or poo a day. I think his diaper rarely had more than two pees in it. I loved guessing if he had to go, needed food, or a burping. I usually fed him first, then if he was fussy, held him over a big bowl, and then burped him. I had to deal with a bit of frustration in the second month as I was starting to expect too much of him. I think I took a day here and there 'off' just to recalibrate and try to see the signs better. We tried to listen for a 'neh' cry which according to the Dunstan method, meant he was hungry.
3-5 Months: This is when we saw his bowel movements become regular. He would typically go only once at 7:30 AM when he first woke up. We started catching around half his pees so he wasn't going through quite as many diapers. I also started doing more diaper free time, usually just around 20 minutes a time a couple times a day. I loved having my 'Itti Bitti Luxury Change Mat' for the diaper free times. He started to enter the 'distracted by everything' stage and having him pee in the toilet was great because he could see and hear his pee which brought his attention back to using the bathroom.
6 Months: I had hoped to have him out of diapers at 6 months so I did a big diaper free push. This wasn't so smart and after about a week I had to give up the idea of telling everyone that he was potty trained at 6 months. Then magically, a few weeks later, things started to click for him. At night we just put a blanket or towel down over his waterproof mat on the matress and left his diaper off because he was peeing before we could get it off. This made it easy to change his bedding if he did pee. Generally, if he cried for more than a minute at night he would pee, unless he had just peed within a few minutes so we were quick about nursing him and then taking him to the baby potty if he fussed. The baby potty was great for night time since he could hold himself up and I didn't have to turn the light on all the way. I was sure to keep both hands on him at all times and typically made sure he was pointed down so we didn't make a mess, although it still happened from time to time. After the first few diaper free nights I started doing more diaper free time during the day again. From being diaper free for half the day for a few days we went to three quarters of the day and then bypassing diapers all together if we were at home.
7 Months: We have started going to town diaperless. I've had to wash the car seat cover a few times but it's been worth it. When he is under my direct care it's great but he still goes into a diaper if he goes to the nursery or if I know I'm going to be distracted and not holding him. My husband started taking him in the morning so I could get a little extra sleep and discovered that he pees right when he wakes up, and usually poos too of course, but then he needs to pee in ten more minutes and then in twenty minutes. The rest of the day he usually doesn't go more than every half hour.
8 Months: He has started arching his back when I take him. It seemed like he needed to move around to get things going so I made a game out of it and he really liked it. My husband is a little more utilitarian and would just hold him until he peed and then play with him. Well... of course Andy started getting upset if I didn't hold him upside down and do all the play before hand, or even if I did. I don't know what was going on but he started just being unhappy when I took him. I wouldn't keep him in the bathroom for long doing my best to trust this little baby but then he'd pee thirty seconds after I got his pants back on. It got so that if my husband was available I'd ask him. There is nothing quite like having your child go nuts in the grocery store bathroom and then trying to explain EC to really embarrass you. After a day or two of this I finally started just holding him in place to pee even though my little angel became possessed for a minute before he'd pee. Now that it's been a few days he's back to normal!
9 Months: It seems to help now to have a distraction for when he needs to poo. He can sign 'all done' and so we sometimes need to say 'almost' and keep him over the toilet a little longer to get more out. In the mornings it's pretty important for him to use his baby potty that he can sit on for a longer period of time to get his poo out because my back gets tired and he gets too bored when we hold him over the toilet. We have had a few nights where he held it all night long (9pm - 6:30am) but I still can't count on it and if he gets too mad, he litterally gets 'pissed off.' I had to think a bit about that one...
10 Months: Well, I'm going to say I think we've regressed a little, or are entering a new stage or something. If we have a full day of no misses we're happy but I feel like we are missing more pees. Maybe we've gotten lax on taking him? He can make it from 9pm to 5am without needing to go to the bathroom though! Other than a certain whiny cry he still isn't signaling that he needs to go. I have started taking him whenever I see him put his hands in that region and sometimes it seems like it is a signal. He has more control as well because sometimes he will sign 'all done' without having peed but I will make him wait a little longer and he will pee about half the time.
17 Months: Andy is now signing 90% of the time to tell us when he needs to go to the bathroom. We can ask him and he will either run to the potty or shake his head "no." He had his first accident at night in months last night. He is able to pull his pants down and empty his potty into the toilet. He still can get his pants up over his bum. He is sleeping from around 7 to 5ish, Dad takes him to the bathroom and then he nurses off and on to around 7:30.
19 Months: Andy has learned to hold it. This means that most of the time he will say "no" if I ask if he needs to go potty. So, we will force him to go when we see him do the potty dance. He has had some accidents but I want him to be able to feel the consequences of not going: the discomfort of wet pants and cleaning up after himself. A friend of mine told me that both of her kids went through this faze around the age of two.
0-3 Months: We started on his second day and caught his first pee on that day. We used a combo of disposable diapers and cloth diapers and ended up just using cloth after a couple weeks. We would take him around 15 times a day and as to be expected mostly missed everything but it was fun to try and guess and get one pee or poo a day. I think his diaper rarely had more than two pees in it. I loved guessing if he had to go, needed food, or a burping. I usually fed him first, then if he was fussy, held him over a big bowl, and then burped him. I had to deal with a bit of frustration in the second month as I was starting to expect too much of him. I think I took a day here and there 'off' just to recalibrate and try to see the signs better. We tried to listen for a 'neh' cry which according to the Dunstan method, meant he was hungry.
3-5 Months: This is when we saw his bowel movements become regular. He would typically go only once at 7:30 AM when he first woke up. We started catching around half his pees so he wasn't going through quite as many diapers. I also started doing more diaper free time, usually just around 20 minutes a time a couple times a day. I loved having my 'Itti Bitti Luxury Change Mat' for the diaper free times. He started to enter the 'distracted by everything' stage and having him pee in the toilet was great because he could see and hear his pee which brought his attention back to using the bathroom.
6 Months: I had hoped to have him out of diapers at 6 months so I did a big diaper free push. This wasn't so smart and after about a week I had to give up the idea of telling everyone that he was potty trained at 6 months. Then magically, a few weeks later, things started to click for him. At night we just put a blanket or towel down over his waterproof mat on the matress and left his diaper off because he was peeing before we could get it off. This made it easy to change his bedding if he did pee. Generally, if he cried for more than a minute at night he would pee, unless he had just peed within a few minutes so we were quick about nursing him and then taking him to the baby potty if he fussed. The baby potty was great for night time since he could hold himself up and I didn't have to turn the light on all the way. I was sure to keep both hands on him at all times and typically made sure he was pointed down so we didn't make a mess, although it still happened from time to time. After the first few diaper free nights I started doing more diaper free time during the day again. From being diaper free for half the day for a few days we went to three quarters of the day and then bypassing diapers all together if we were at home.
7 Months: We have started going to town diaperless. I've had to wash the car seat cover a few times but it's been worth it. When he is under my direct care it's great but he still goes into a diaper if he goes to the nursery or if I know I'm going to be distracted and not holding him. My husband started taking him in the morning so I could get a little extra sleep and discovered that he pees right when he wakes up, and usually poos too of course, but then he needs to pee in ten more minutes and then in twenty minutes. The rest of the day he usually doesn't go more than every half hour.
8 Months: He has started arching his back when I take him. It seemed like he needed to move around to get things going so I made a game out of it and he really liked it. My husband is a little more utilitarian and would just hold him until he peed and then play with him. Well... of course Andy started getting upset if I didn't hold him upside down and do all the play before hand, or even if I did. I don't know what was going on but he started just being unhappy when I took him. I wouldn't keep him in the bathroom for long doing my best to trust this little baby but then he'd pee thirty seconds after I got his pants back on. It got so that if my husband was available I'd ask him. There is nothing quite like having your child go nuts in the grocery store bathroom and then trying to explain EC to really embarrass you. After a day or two of this I finally started just holding him in place to pee even though my little angel became possessed for a minute before he'd pee. Now that it's been a few days he's back to normal!
9 Months: It seems to help now to have a distraction for when he needs to poo. He can sign 'all done' and so we sometimes need to say 'almost' and keep him over the toilet a little longer to get more out. In the mornings it's pretty important for him to use his baby potty that he can sit on for a longer period of time to get his poo out because my back gets tired and he gets too bored when we hold him over the toilet. We have had a few nights where he held it all night long (9pm - 6:30am) but I still can't count on it and if he gets too mad, he litterally gets 'pissed off.' I had to think a bit about that one...
10 Months: Well, I'm going to say I think we've regressed a little, or are entering a new stage or something. If we have a full day of no misses we're happy but I feel like we are missing more pees. Maybe we've gotten lax on taking him? He can make it from 9pm to 5am without needing to go to the bathroom though! Other than a certain whiny cry he still isn't signaling that he needs to go. I have started taking him whenever I see him put his hands in that region and sometimes it seems like it is a signal. He has more control as well because sometimes he will sign 'all done' without having peed but I will make him wait a little longer and he will pee about half the time.
17 Months: Andy is now signing 90% of the time to tell us when he needs to go to the bathroom. We can ask him and he will either run to the potty or shake his head "no." He had his first accident at night in months last night. He is able to pull his pants down and empty his potty into the toilet. He still can get his pants up over his bum. He is sleeping from around 7 to 5ish, Dad takes him to the bathroom and then he nurses off and on to around 7:30.
19 Months: Andy has learned to hold it. This means that most of the time he will say "no" if I ask if he needs to go potty. So, we will force him to go when we see him do the potty dance. He has had some accidents but I want him to be able to feel the consequences of not going: the discomfort of wet pants and cleaning up after himself. A friend of mine told me that both of her kids went through this faze around the age of two.
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Parenting out of fear
Love > Fear ?
Is anyone else tired of being told to do things that don't feel right for the fear that your kids wont turn out?"You have to let your baby cry it out for his own good..."
"A person's sleep habits are determined by seven months..."
"You'll never get to have sex with your husband as long as you co-sleep..."
"Don't let your baby fall asleep while nursing, being rocked, sang to, or any other pleasurable activity..."
Where is the fun in parenting? No wonder us moms complain so much. While all the magazines talk about how poor stressed out moms are making it why are we depriving ourselves of the joys of having a baby because of fear? Can't we just love our kids anymore?
If we honestly love our kids and honestly communicate with them when they need to learn a lesson don't you think they have a fighting chance? Instead of looking for solutions we can BE the solution our children need.
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