Wednesday, October 21, 2015

The Loss of a stay at home parent in America

Is it just me or is it really hard figuring out how to be a mom?  Don't get me wrong, I have a great mom, but breastfeeding, nap time and cooking three meals a day is honestly more than I can handle seven days a week.

Why is this?  Since when is it easier to go to work than be with your family?

Is it just our me me me society making me too selfish?  Is it the fact that so few of us had stay at home moms we don't have role models showing us all the right, quick and easy ways of doing things?  Is it the fact that we have smaller families and segregate our kids in public schools to only interact with other kids their age so that no one has learned how to change a diaper or interact with kids until they have their own baby?

Why do I spend so much time online researching how to be a mom when it should be "natural?"

What if I blamed feminists?  Women working is great but I feel like we've shot ourselves in the foot and now we either have to work or choose to work so that we can have a lifestyle we like, at the expense of our family.

What if I blamed liberals and all their wonderful social programs?  Moms need Dads to support the family but it is now more economically feasible to be single since the government will pay you more than what your husband could be making.  Our governmental social programs have made it very difficult for other groups to help the needy.  Have you tried filling out 501C3 papers?  

So, this country used to be peopled by people who helped each other.  Christians used to give 10% to cheritable causes, neighbors used to not only talk but help each other and their was a concept of respectability that went beyond making money; nowadays who cares about your morals you just "do what you have to do" to get money, business is business.  Socialism is the new fad because the government and liability have made it so difficult to help someone no one does it anymore therfore it's the governments job.

Parents teach children to help those in need, protect the small, respect others... When the stay at home parent has time they can make healthful meals.  Now we can fight obeisity.  Now we can help our kids struggling with behavior related to food allergies.  Stay at home parents can help with school so no kid gets left behind.  Stay at home parents can help kids learn fiscal responsibility.  You get the idea.

The government doesn't need to be our kid's parent.  It's not the governments job to teach morality.  But these days parents choose to rack up school debt, buy lattes everyday and think that money is a good trade off for their child's childhood.  Remember, our culture is all about sex, not the result of it.